(Hey JS, if you come across this post, please know that you are welcome here anytime!!!)
Ok, folks, once again, I have gone cyber-psycho.....
As many of you know, precious few people IRL know of my secret cyber-life. "Urban Mom" gets to go through life with slighly fewer social filters than "Valerie" has to. It's the fun of the blog. I mean, it's not like I blatantly try to be offensive or anything. I try to (mostly) be at least respectful. But I refer to people in the Urbans' lives as I see fit here. It's why I call Best Namma Ever!'s husband Her Husband. It's why I call my paternal grandmother Not The Best Namma Ever!. And whenever I tell someone IRL about this blog, I do it with the idea of "I have to see this person; do I have to adjust what and how I write to accomodate that?" Those people IRL are then sworn to keep my deep, dark secret. You folks out in cyber-space can tell anyone you like about the goofy mom from Chicago who essentially uses her computer to open her window and yell at whomever passes by.
So I was over on Facebook.......
FB leads you to believe that you can tinker with sublists within your list of friends. Keep in mind that my FB list is all of about 47 people, about 1/4 to 1/3 people that I have never even met IRL. And so I played with the sublist of ideas. For example, I don't figure that everyone I've ever met wants to hear my thoughts on politics, so I created a list called "Politics." I then did a "Comment if you can see this" post. Only a few actually responded, but they were on the list.
And you know what I did next.....
I created a "blog" list. Y'see, my FB friend Dy posts on FB whenever she does a new blog post. I thought that this was a very nifty idea! So I created my "blog" list -- people who do not include my immediate family or perhaps who are friends with folks who I may not want knowing my details -- and checked and double-checked it. I then did the "come see my new blog entry" post on FB.
a family remember responded that he was confused about how to find it.
and a nice fellow mom down the block from me sent me an e-mail -- a very lovely e-mail -- responding to my blog post. (again, JS, you're welcome to the party here!)
I immediately took down the FB post. I then kicked the blog into "private" mode as I pondered what to do next. I've had to think carefully about what I want to do with the Urban Mom blog. Go private permanently? Go back through my entries and figure out what to delete or alter? Keep going as I have been, but check statcounter.com carefully and more often?
I'm going with option #3.
Maybe few people had a chance to see the FB post. Maybe if they've tried the link and couldn't get in, they've gone on to the next thing in their lives. Maybe I can stop ridiculously overestimating my importance in anyone's life but my own.
So that's where I've been for a few days.
And know that if you're reading this right now, that I'm very likely flattered, grateful and giddy with joy that you find me worth your time and energy.