Saturday, April 19, 2008

Reunited and It Feels So...... Whatever

When the Urban Kids and I were in St. Louis a few weeks ago, I was directed by a friend to a high school alumni website. Seems that this page is like MySpace, but just for folks who graduated from our school. So I clicked over and found some familiar faces.

As with any new cyber-experience, it turned into a giant time-suck. Seriously, I wasted way too much time! But it WAS interesting! It was like a cyber-reunion, which was just my speed. I posted my own info and traded a few pleasant notes. Seems that several of us are doing well, happy and healthy, and a bunch are even in the Chicago and Chicagoland area. One is in Germany, another in Puerto Rico, several out West, others down South... so several of us also blew the cocoon of North St. Louis County and went on to other things. Guess I wasn't the only one needing a new scene!

And one of us is a grandparent already. UGH! That one smarted.

And now I know that I don't need to attend the 20-year reunion this year. (yes, i just gave away my age!) I didn't go to the 10-year either. I was a busy kid in high school -- captain of two varsity teams, NHS member, an editor of the paper and yearbook. And while I was the kid who was friendly with just about all of the various groups, I was underwhelmed with the high school experience. I just outgrew it all really fast. I also had a lot of personal baggage at that time in life. If I could go back, I would choose the adults in my life more carefully. I would be less needy and nervous. Less angry too. It's a hard age -- you learn some of the tougher realities of adulthood and that sometimes right does not overcome wrong.

So why go back? Those that I wanted to maintain contact with... I have. But when the time came to head off to college, I went to one where NO ONE from my class went. There was one person on the entire campus that went to my high school. I liked it that way. I had been with essentially the same group of people since the first grade. I figured we could all wish each other well and head into the world to find our ways.

I guess I just don't understand the reunion thing. Especially in an internet-connected world. Until now, I rarely even thought about these people. Not because I wish anyone any ill feelings. I'm genuinely happy that they're happy. But I'm SUCH a different person than I was then. Why go back and re-visit that scene for too long?

So as you might tell, I spent a bunch of time on the site thinking, "ooo, this is interesting." Then when I was finished, I thought, "why the heck did I spend so much time on THAT?" It was ultimately pretty anti-climactic and deflating.

Kind of like high school itself.........


Tiffany said...

I hated high school with a passion. I did go back for my 10 year reunion years ago and enjoyed seeing that the nobodies were somebodies and the somebodies were now the nobodies pool boys or gardners. I grew up in a small town. Real small. I won't go to anymore I'm sure.

Jenni said...

Huh. You're a year older than me. I had you figured for a few years younger, but not everyone has four kids by the time they're 25, LOL.

I've been thinking about next year's reunion. I'd really like to go. I went to a very small high school and my graduating class had only 28 people in it. I'm curious to know what they've been doing, but really I just genuinely liked everyone in my class even though I wasn't particularly close to any of them. I loved the little town and haven't been back since oldest ds was a baby. We also have good friends within an hour or two from there that we could visit. I do hope we'll get to go.